Alright, raise your hand if you’ve ever struggled with life? From working, to raising kids, building your empire, remembering to take your car in for it’s overdue service, posting on Instagram, managing quarterly taxes, eating your veggies, eating normal food in general, and fulfilling your promise to use your gym membership before your year-pass runs out… With all these distractions, no wonder finding balance is so hard.
Is it just me, or is the glorification of busy just totally exhausting? As a creative, I say YES to just about everything that comes my way. I find myself taking on new projects left, right, and centre and next thing I know I’m nodding off at my desk and the coffee in my cup has gone completely cold.
For those of you that don’t know, as much as I’d love to be a blogger and wedding planner full time, I work Monday-Friday at my corporate job because I’m just not there yet. The reality is that sometimes I feel like I should quit because I’ve lost all my momentum. The guilt is real my friends. And then I had a revelation while reading Emily Ley’s Grace Not Perfection. She wrote:
“When we are weak, we aren’t our best selves. We can’t draw water from an empty well. And when we are empty, we’re good for no one.” Emily Ley, Grace Not Perfection
That was all I needed to hear.
Maybe you haven’t finished editing photos you took for your client last week. Maybe you haven’t made any progress on the book you’re writing, or the website you’re updating. But guess what? It’s OK. Give yourself a break to fill your tank. We all have moments of feeling completely burnt out. Instead of being a hero and trudging though the already deep mud, stop for a second and allow yourself to re-fuel. Everything and everyone can wait.
Finding balance looks different to everyone. Depending on your routine, allow yourself to refuel one day a week. A hot bath with my favourite candles can do wonders for me at the end of a busy week. If baths aren’t your thing, give yourself a one hour coffee break, before picking the kids up from school, meet up with an old friend over a bottle of wine, or grab some headphones and go for a walk to your favourite Spotify playlist.
Find your balance, everything else can wait.
What is the hardest part about finding time for yourself? If you could press pause on life right now, what would you during that precious time?
Today I wanted to talk on a more serious note about something that I think we all have experienced at some point in our lives. It comes in many shapes and forms and grows in size as we give in to it. Like many uncomfortable things in life, it can be hard to talk about, especially if we want others to perceive us as confident and unflawed. It’s the big, nasty, f-word. Fear.
I have a love/hate relationship with this word. I hate the stigma that surrounds fear because fear does not look the same to me as it does to you. Likewise, you should know that you do not have to justify the validity of your fears. But what I love about fear is that we ALL live with it, we ALL feel it, and we ALL deal with it. You know that girl on Instagram with the seemingly perfect life? She lives with fear. You know your best friend who you think has it all together? She lives with fear. They all live with fear. The bottom line is… we all have fear.
So now that you know that you are NOT alone when it comes to living with fear, I want to help you cope with it.
1. Name It
Alright, so let’s start by naming the beast. I’ll start:
I’m afraid of being misunderstood.I have a fear of not being liked for who I am.I’m fearful of being judged while I pursue my dreams.
Think of what exactly it is that you are fearful of. Is it caused by insecurities? Is it something you can control? Whatever it is, being able to put your finger on it will help identify the fear when it affects us most. When you have identified it, it’s no longer unknown and illusive. It’s out there in plain sight for us to get a little bit more comfortable with.
2. Own It
This part is really important. By owning your fears, you take away its power to control your life. In theory it sounds simple, but it requires a ton of bravery and courage which I KNOW you have no shortage of. Owning your fears says “Hey, I might be afraid of this, but I’m going to do it anyway.”
In order to fully own your fears, you need to be okay with exposing them. There’s an undeniable power that comes from exposing these raw parts of ourselves and not letting them slow us down. In other words, owning your fears is complete badassery and the world should watch out.
3. Share It
You might be thinking I’m crazy. Why would I want you to share something that makes you vulnerable? That’s just it, because it makes you vulnerable. We are drawn to vulnerability because it’s real and authentic. By sharing your fears with others, a few amazing things happen. First of all, it opens up a meaningful conversation beyond the surface. Believe it or not, people care about how you’re really doing and they will listen.
Secondly, there’s a very good chance that someone else shares the very same, or very similar fears that you have. Starting a conversation with someone who you share a common (or uncommon) fear with is a recipe for deeper connections. In a world fed by automated Instagram comments, like4like, and bots, it’s becoming harder and harder to find deep and meaningful connections.
And lastly, share your fears because in the end, we are more alike than we are different.
What are your greatest fears? How have you tried to own your fears? Tell me about your experiences in the comments
Hello everyone! It’s time to share my review of the Simplified Planner after a few months of use. Simplified Planner creator, Emily Ley, truly understands the needs of women on the go and has designed the Simplified Planner with the intentions of building simplicity into every day life. Emily’s products, including the Simplified Planner, reflect her fresh, feminine and functional brand and her philosophy of “grace, not perfection”.
Being organized is one of my top priorities and finding the right agenda to plan out my daily schedule is something really important to me. With so many agenda brands out there like Rifle Paper, Kate Spade, and Band.o (all of which I’ve tried) it can be tough to find one that works for you.
Let me first say that choosing a design for my SP was NOT an easy choice! First of all SP comes in two formats, the Daily Edition (like the one in this post) or the Weekly Edition. Beyond that, The SP Daily Edition comes in four chic designs: Fancy Floral, Happy Stripe, Gold Pineapple, and Fuchsia Dot (pictured above). For the sake of this post, I’ll be referring specifically to the 2017 Calendar – Daily Simplified Planner in Fuchsia Dot.
First things first, I absolutely love the design of the SP. Each day gets it’s own page which is organized by time on the left side and a to-do list on the right side. Hour by hour from 6am until 9pm, you can jot down your schedule for the day. This is so handy because even if you work 9-5, there can be so many little things that need to be taken care of in a day. The to-do list is also a great spot to write a short grocery list, appointment reminders and little notes. The bottom section of the page features a box for dinner, because let’s face it; eating is the best part of the day right? This reminds me to think ahead about dinners instead of getting home at 6pm and opting for pizza because there’s no time to cook AND catch Suits on Wednesday nights… am I right? Beside this box there’s another little box for notes – again this really helps categorize your thoughts into organized reminders and keep things simple (which is the whole idea behind the SP)
One of the little deign details I love about the SP is the gold hardware and finishes. The gold binding is wide and durable and the gold-plated edges prevent the edges damage from wear and tear. When you order the SP, it comes in a gorgeous navy & gold keepsake box which is great if you are giving it away as a gift or safely storing it away (not sure why you would do either of these things though!)
So not only is the Simplified Planner pretty and nice to look at, it’s super functional. With minimal words and lines and just the right amount of space to write, it does really well in keeping you focussed on your priorities without making yourself overwhelmed with distractions and busy-ness. In addition to the daily view (pictured above) the weekends are conveniently grouped together (pictured below) to give you an easy visual for your weekend schedule. The weekends also feature a “Weekend Prep” box that allows you to check off tasks such as meal plans, preparing for the Monday grind, and doing something you enjoy. These small details are not only nice little reminders to get s*** done but also to use your SP to its full potential.
All in all, the daily design is extremely functional because it’s limiting in the right places. I’m totally guilty of writing more lists and notes than are necessary so the SP forces me to focus on what’s important and forget about the distractions. The bright tabs make it super easy to find each month and there’s enough room to write on each page – something that I really struggled with using other agendas.
Each month opens up to a two-page spread to show a monthly view, which is perfect for jotting down bigger events such as birthdays, holidays, travel, meetings and just about anything. I try to keep my notes and scheduling simple, so I only write down whats absolutely necessary in the monthly view – I save details for the daily pages. There’s also a small pocket on the inside front cover which is handy for keeping any loose papers, sticky notes, etc. in one place.
Last, but not least, is size and portability. Some people can’t leave the house without their phone or iPad; well I can’t go anywhere without my SP! (True story). I need to write things down to remember, so forgetting my SP at home is not an option.It fits perfectly in my purse (pictured below) and in my work bag that I use every day for the office and weddings. I only have one cross-body purse that it won’t fit into because it’s tiny but other than that I have no problem toting it around. Because it’s 9 inches in length, it’s a whole inch shorter than Band.o agendas, making it a bit easier to transport.
I love love love my Simplified Planner. As an on-the-go wedding planner (HELLO scheduling is basically my life), full-time 9-5’er, AND blogger, being organized is absolutely crucial. The hourly breakdown from 6am-9pm is one of my favourite features because it gives me the best visual as to what each day will look like and still gives me room to write my to-do’s and dinner plans. Being able to break things down into categories is such a great way to keep mentally organized and keep my productivity levels in-check.
I hope you enjoyed this post about my love for the Simplified Planner! If you have any questions, like how to decide what cover to get, feel free to let me know! xoxo