Home » blog » Archives for 2016

From 2016

finding balance

Alright, raise your hand if you’ve ever struggled with life? From working, to raising kids, building your empire, remembering to take your car in for it’s overdue service, posting on Instagram 27 times a day, managing quarterly taxes, eating your veggies, eating normal food in general, and fulfilling your promise to use your gym membership before your year-pass runs out… With all these distractions, no wonder finding balance is so hard.

Is it just me, or is the glorification of busy just totally exhausting? As a creative, I say YES to just about everything that comes my way. I find myself taking on new projects left, right, and centre and next thing I know I’m nodding off at my desk and the coffee in my cup has gone completely cold.

Finding Balance / femmesociety.ca

For those of you that don’t know, as much as I’d love to be a blogger and wedding planner full time, I work Monday-Friday at my corporate job because I’m just not there yet. The reality of it is, sometimes I don’t post on Instagram for two whole weeks. Sometimes, a whole month goes by before I write a new blog post. Sometimes, I feel like I should quit because I’ve lost all my momentum. The guilt is real my friends. And then I had a revelation, thanks to my good friend, Emily Ley. In Emily’s new book, Grace Not Perfection (which is an absolute NECESSITY in your life and should go buy it right now) she wrote:

“When we are weak, we aren’t our best selves. We can’t draw water from an empty well. And when we are empty, we’re good for no one.”

That was all I needed to hear.

Maybe you haven’t finished editing the engagement photos you took for your client last week. Maybe you haven’t made any progress on the book you’re writing, or the website you’re updating. But guess what? It’s OK. Give yourself a break to fill your tank. We all have moments of feeling completely burnt out. Instead of being a hero and trudging though the already deep mud, stop for a second and allow yourself to re-fuel. Everything and everyone in your life will thank you.

It’s important to know that finding balance looks different to everyone, and I challenge you to find a balance that works for you and your personal struggles. Depending on your routine, allow yourself to refuel one day a week. A hot bath with my favourite candles can do wonders for me at the end of a busy week. If baths aren’t your thing, give yourself a one hour coffee break (alone!) before picking the kids up from school, meet up with an old friend over a bottle of wine, or grab some headphones and go for a walk to your favourite Spotify playlist.

Find your balance, everything else can wait.

What is the hardest part about finding time for yourself? If you could press pause on life right now, what would you during that precious time? Need some ideas for finding balance in your life? Let me know! hello@femmesociety.ca

Share on FacebookPin on PinterestTweet about this on TwitterEmail to someone

conquering fear

Today I wanted to talk on a more serious note about something that I think we all have experienced at some point in our lives. It comes in many shapes and forms and grows in size as we give in to it. Like many uncomfortable things in life, it can be hard to talk about, especially if we want others to perceive us as confident and unflawed. It’s the big, nasty, f-word. Fear.

I have a love/hate relationship with this word. I hate the stigma that surrounds fear because fear does not look the same to me, as it does to you. Likewise, you should know that you do not have to justify the validity of your fears. But what I love about fear is that we ALL live with it, we ALL feel it, and we ALL deal with it. You know that girl on Instagram with the seemingly perfect life? She lives with fear. You know your best friend who you think has it all together? She lives with fear. They all live with fear. The bottom line is… we all have fear.

So now that you know that you are NOT alone when it comes to living with fear, I want to help you cope with it.

here-are-3-tips-for-conquering-fear

1. Name It

Alright, so let’s start by naming the beast. I’ll start:

I’m afraid of being misunderstood.

I have a fear of not being liked for who I am.

I’m fearful of being judged while I pursue my dreams.

Think of what exactly it is that you are fearful of. Is it caused by insecurities? Is it something you can control? Whatever it is, being able to put your finger on it will help identify the fear when it affects us most. When you have identified it, it’s no longer unknown and illusive. It’s out there in plain sight for us to get a little bit more comfortable with.

2. Own It

This part is really important. By owning your fears, you take away its power to control your life. In theory it sounds simple, but it requires a ton of bravery and courage which I KNOW you have no shortage of. Owning your fears says “Hey, I might be afraid of this, but I’m going to do it anyway.”

In order to fully own your fears, you need to be okay with exposing them. There’s an undeniable power that comes from exposing these raw parts of ourselves and not letting them slow us down. In other words, owning your fears is complete badassery and the world should watch out.

3. Share It

You might be thinking I’m crazy. Why would I want you to share something that makes you vulnerable? That’s just it, because it makes you vulnerable. We are drawn to vulnerability because it’s real and authentic. By sharing your fears with others, a few amazing things happen. First of all, it opens up a meaningful conversation beyond the surface. Believe it or not, people care about how you’re really doing and they will listen.

Secondly, there’s a very good chance that someone else shares the very same, or very similar fears that you have. Starting a conversation with someone who you share a common (or uncommon) fear with is a recipe for deeper connections. In a world fed by automated Instagram comments, like4like, and bots, it’s becoming harder and harder to find deep and meaningful connections.

And lastly, share your fears because in the end, we are more alike than we are different.

Conquering Fear // femmesociety.ca
 —
What are your greatest fears? How have you tried to own your fears? Tell me about your experiences in the comments. Have a lovely week everyone! xo
Share on FacebookPin on PinterestTweet about this on TwitterEmail to someone

Desk inspiration

Happy weekend everyone! I’m really excited to share this post because until now, I’ve never had my own work space. Since we moved to a new condo in August, I finally have the space for a desk, my laptop, wall space for photos and whatever else my creative heart can think of. Having a functional workspace is absolutely crucial for not only productivity, but also your mood. Trust me, I’ve spent enough years marking my academic territory on all my favourite studying spots as a student… it’s serious business. With this new office of mine, I wanted to create a space where I felt inspired, cozy, and connected with my purpose as a blogger.

What’s On My Desk?

On My Desk - Office Inspiration - www.femmesociety.ca

The Details:

Simplified Planner

My Simplified Planner is the epicentre of my organization. It helps me keep my life together, literally. I write down my schedule, to-do lists, ideas, appointments, everything. It’s an office must. (Psst… want to know more about the Simplified Planner? Then check out my previous blog post)

On My Desk - Simplified Planner - www.femmesocity.ca

Ikea Everything

It’s affordable and looks good; what else does a girl need? I chose the Hemnes desk in white, the Ranarp lamp in black, and an assortment of frames in White, Gold, and Black. The faux flowers are also Ikea.

On My Desk - Ikea - www.femmesociety.ca

On My Desk - Ikea - www.femmesociety.ca

Inspiration Pieces

Since I’m not big on colours, I used black, gold and white as the foundation and then used my brand colours in three black frames above my desk. From there I used pops of pink to make the space feel a bit more lively. I love quotes so I used one on the cork board and the other in a white Ikea frame (shown above).

on-my-desk-femmesociety

on-my-desk-pink-books-femmesociety

Final Touches

I used faux carnations for more pops of colour, gold Chapters notebooks and lastly Buddha… because it’s just awesome. Not pictured on my desk are my candles. Who else loves candles? I love that candles can really pull together a space and immediately make it feel cozy and inviting. I’m always looking for new candles and scents to include in my office and the rest of my home. I’m currently loving  THYMES in Frasier Fir. What are some of your favourite candle scents?!

on-my-desk-workspace-femmesociety

White Buddha: Urban Barn
Grace Not Perfection: Amazon
Good Morning Beautiful mug: Chapters
Gold Notebooks: Chapters

What’s something you always have at your desk? What’s your favourite part of your office or workspace? Let me know in the comments. Have a lovely week friends!

Share on FacebookPin on PinterestTweet about this on TwitterEmail to someone