Our Engagement Story!

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Something pretty special happened in May and just in case you haven’t guessed it yet, Alex and I are ENGAGED! I don’t post a whole lot about my personal life on my blog but our engagement was one of the most special days of my life (especially having been a wedding planner, we take these moments in life pretty seriously).

The elaborate plan unfolded during our vacation in Vancouver and thanks to Alex and a few other lovely individuals, it was one we’ll never forget. My words alone will never suffice to describe how special this day was, so luckily our good friend Joel was in on the big secret and was there to photograph the whole thing. You can view the entire gallery of our surprise proposal on his photography website here.

So without further ado, here’s our engagement story:

Alex and I have been together nearly 3 years and the the topic of marriage is no secret in our household. Although we frequently discussed getting married, Alex would never disclose any thoughts to me on how he imagined popping the question. He always said “I have a plan and you don’t get to know a thing.” And of course, being the typical Type-A planner that I am, I had a hard time grappling with not knowing what he had in mind. And believe me, I tried tricking him into telling me numerous times and to my dismay, he never fell for it.

We had been planning to go on vacation in May for awhile and I always thought it would be the perfect time to get engaged. We stayed at a boutique hotel right by the beach in English Bay and each day of our trip was planned with our favourite things to do in the city. Our trip was off to an amazing start but I couldn’t help but lose a little hope when our vacation plans unfolded and saw the chances of a potential engagement growing slimmer. One morning while we were getting ready in the hotel, I let my curiosity get the best of me and while Alex was busy showering, I quickly searched his bags. Yes you read that right, I looked for the ring! When my search came up empty, I couldn’t help but feel a little crushed but neverthelessI I tried to shake it off and look forward to the rest of the activities we had planned.

That day we paraded around Vancouver doing what we do best: shopping and eating. As the evening approached, Alex suggested we head back to the hotel to get ready for our evening plans. Alex had bought me a new dress for our date night and was excited to take us for drinks in Coal Harbour before before going to English Bay for a seafood dinner. It was the perfect date night, or so I thought.

During the cab ride to Coal Harbour I day dreamed about the day we’d finally get engaged. We were so ready. I reminded myself about the (shameful) snooping and that there was no ring and dismissed the thought before I got too upset. Looking back, I can’t help but giggle at my melodramatic thoughts not knowing what was about to happen next.

Alex suggested we take some pictures before going for drinks so he led us to a rooftop overlooking the ocean. At the top waited a romantic setting on the grass, complete with flowers and champagne and I thought to myself “Wow, that’s beautiful. It must be for another couple.” I quickly looked away and in the same moment Alex turned to me and said “This is for us” and that’s when my whole body melted. I was not prepared for the tsunami of emotions that hit me all at once as Alex led me to the hand-painted backdrop adorned with greenery and surrounded by pillows. All I could say  was “This is happening, it’s finally happening.” With shaking legs and tears streaming down my face, I said yes to marrying the man of my dreams.

Nothing could ever be more perfect than that moment.

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I cannot give enough credit to my fiancé for his detailed and thoughtful planning skills. Seriously, I sometimes think he would be a better event planner than me! After popping the question and putting the most beautiful ring on my finger, we clinked glasses with my favourite champagne and he sang and played me a song on guitar that he had written himself. Backstory: when Alex and I first started dating, he wrote me a song about my love for Pumpkin Spiced Lattes that he sang and played on guitar for me. He told me that the next time he writes me a song will be when we get engaged. You can just imagine how much I was crying at this point, which basically didn’t stop for a full 24 hours. All the happy tears!

From there, the magical night continued into what is now my most favourite and cherished memory. Alex and I have been engaged for almost two months and we could not be happier. We are extremely grateful for the people that helped make this day possible… the biggest thank you goes out out to Stephanie and Elizabeth of Sweetheart Events who brought Alex’s proposal dream to life. These ladies went above and beyond to ensure Alex’s plans would go off without a hitch. And thank you to our friend Joelsview Photography who made the trip from Kelowna to capture this incredibly special moment. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for making May 25th the best day of our lives.

As far as wedding planning goes, we are slowly narrowing down potential dates and will soon choose a date for September of 2019. Something that Alex and I always talked about was that we both wanted a long engagement and do not want to rush into planning a wedding. Since getting engaged, there is definitely pressure to start planning right away and that’s just not for us. Right now, we are enjoying every second of being engaged and look forward to the memories we’ll make during this stage in our relationship. Besides, I quite enjoy calling Alex my fiancé!

 

So that’s our story! I hope you enjoyed hearing about our special announcement. If you want to hear any more engagement related details such as the ring, engagement party planning, tips on what to do after you’re engaged… please let me know in the comments or send me an email at hello@femmesociety.ca.

Lots of love,

Kate & Alex.

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finding your voice

How many times has your internal dialogue told you to be more like someone else? These days it seems like “influencers” are in every direction whose voices are so loud, the smaller voices get drowned out. We hear ourselves thinking “Maybe If I was more like her/him, then I’d be more successful.” Sound familiar? With social media at an all time high, we’re hardwired to believe that we should be more than we are. Maybe it’s just easier to copy whatever that “successful” person is doing, rather than finding your voice. I get that. But let’s  turn the tables and remind you of why your voice is one of the most powerful tools you can master in all aspects of your life.

How often have you heard the following statements?

“You shouldn’t run your business like that.”

“You’d be more beautiful if _____”

“Doing ____ won’t get you noticed.”

“You’re never going to see results that way.”

“That’s a bad idea, it’s already been done before.”

These situations are probably at the worst end of the spectrum but nevertheless, society has a way of sending us these messages in very discrete ways. Finding your voice through these kinds of situations can be really tough. Where do you even start? Whether you’re trying to find your voice in your work, in your relationship, or even within yourself, let’s first consider where our voice comes from:

Your voice comes from your heart

When you speak from the heart, what kinds of things come to mind? Use your heart to identify the emotions that describe you or what you’re passionate about. We’re conditioned to believe that we’ll be more accepted if we round out our edges but those edges are what set you apart from the rest. Don’t do away with something because it makes you different, let that part of you stand out.

Your voice comes from your values

Your values are like a moral compass that guide you between what you believe to be right or wrong. In other words, they are basically an extension of what you believe in. Let’s say your values are to be honest and compassionate. Allow your voice to lead with Honesty and Compassion and these values will most definitely be heard among the crowd. And lastly, everyones values are different so don’t be afraid to let yours shine through.

Your voice comes from authenticity

This point, in my opinion, is the most important. I’m sure you’ve heard about authenticity before but nevertheless, according to Meriam-Webster, the definition of authenticity is being “true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character is sincere and authentic with no pretensions.” I speak from experience when I say that being my authentic, true self is what made the difference between finding my voice and being a follower; someone generic. Authenticity is directly tied to being in tune with your heart and your values, so allow yourself the vulnerability and freedom to embrace the beautiful, unique person that you are. Make your voice heard. 

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Have you experienced a time when you felt like your voice was being silenced or challenged? How did you get back in tune with yourself and your voice?

Xo, Kate

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Celebrating International Women’s Day

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Happy International Women’s Day!

Today is a special day for one particular reason. International Women’s Day has been observed for over 100 years, dating back to the early 1900’s when 15,000 women marched through the streets of New York City insisting on shorter work hours, better pay and the right to vote. This march spurred a movement nothing short of a revolution that is still very alive and well in 2017. During the Women’s March on Washington on January 21, 2017, an estimated 4.8 million people marched world wide in solidarity for women’s rights. Although International Women’s Day celebrates the strides made towards gender parity, patriarch dissolve, access to education, protection against violence and gender equality, it sparks the conversation of how to further these achievements and the work still required to rid the glass ceiling from existence entirely.

I pledge to help women and girls achieve their ambitions

Whenever people ask me what my blog is about, I tell them my blog isn’t about me; it’s about the women of the world unsure of their worth. It’s about the women who dream of being something bigger. It’s for the girls who want to create their own path rather than follow the one forced upon them. It’s for the women that want to be leaders of change for their communities. It’s for the tribe full of brave, powerful and badass female warriors that I’m so proud to be in the company of.

International Women’s Day can mean something a little different to each of us. I encourage you to visit the International Women’s Day  website and #PledgeForParity to start conversations about women’s rights and influence the future of gender equality. What will you pledge for?

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What makes you feel powerful as a woman in 2017?

To celebrate diversity and strength of women in the 21st century, I asked some amazing Femme Society readers what makes them feel proud and powerful to be a woman in today’s society. Here’s what they had to say:

 

 “Being able to write and follow my dreams, whatever they may be at the moment. Being an equal partner in my marriage and I am excited for the day I’ll be a mother.” -Taylor

“Perfectly applied red lipstick or the sound of heels on hard floors. Both also give me a confidence boost. Watch out world, I’m here!” -Margaret

“I know that there are so many women that don’t and might never get to feel this way, but I personally feel proud and powerful to be a woman in 2017 because I know that I’m free and capable of pursuing my biggest goals and dreams without limitations. And that’s a dream I have for every woman. That our only limitation in life would be ourselves.” -Nicole

“Bold lipstick, even if I’m wearing sweatpants and haven’t shaved my legs in a week.” -Mallory

“I feel feminine when I feel powerful. Being female is powerful! Sometimes I feel powerful while I’m kicking ass in a work out. Sometimes I’m wearing heels and spending time with my girls. Other times it’s while I’m curled up on the couch with my sweetie. I have the power to choose the life I want to live, that is powerful!” -Rae

“I’m proud that I can be the one who has the big career and the most education in a relationship. I’m proud that I can be the bread winner and that is both accepted and encouraged.” -Kelsey

“I always feel feminine! It’s hard to just pick one thing. I like to think of myself as a badass woman warrior – as I think we all are whether we know it or not.” -Brittany

“As a woman in the modern age it’s so easy to find pride and strength in the things we can accomplish. Our career or ability to hold a career, juggle our children, cook dinner and still get a workout in. We are so quick to become prideful in our abilities, yet when we can’t seem to get it together, we beat ourselves up. We compare our inability’s to those who “have it all together”. The reality is we can’t do it all even though we so desperately want to. So what makes me feel proud and powerful in this age? Letting go. Letting go of expectations of myself or the expectations others hold over me. Saying no to the weight of my burdens that I can’t bare on my own and ultimately allowing the Lord to be my sustenance in life. What freedom it is to know I can’t do it all and that the burdens I carry don’t have to be my own, there is a God who carries them for me and gives me strength when I fall.” -Rebecca


How are you celebrating #IWD17? What are you pledging to #BeBoldForChange? Are you participating in a Day Without a Woman?

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