finding your voice

How many times has your internal dialogue told you to be more like someone else? These days it seems like “influencers” are in every direction whose voices are so loud, the smaller voices get drowned out. We hear ourselves thinking “Maybe If I was more like her/him, then I’d be more successful.” Sound familiar? With social media at an all time high, we’re hardwired to believe that we should be more than we are. Maybe it’s just easier to copy whatever that “successful” person is doing, rather than finding your voice. I get that. But let’s  turn the tables and remind you of why your voice is one of the most powerful tools you can master in all aspects of your life.

How often have you heard the following statements?

“You shouldn’t run your business like that.”

“You’d be more beautiful if _____”

“Doing ____ won’t get you noticed.”

“You’re never going to see results that way.”

“That’s a bad idea, it’s already been done before.”

These situations are probably at the worst end of the spectrum but nevertheless, society has a way of sending us these messages in very discrete ways. Finding your voice through these kinds of situations can be really tough. Where do you even start? Whether you’re trying to find your voice in your work, in your relationship, or even within yourself, let’s first consider where our voice comes from:

Your voice comes from your heart

When you speak from the heart, what kinds of things come to mind? Use your heart to identify the emotions that describe you or what you’re passionate about. We’re conditioned to believe that we’ll be more accepted if we round out our edges but those edges are what set you apart from the rest. Don’t do away with something because it makes you different, let that part of you stand out.

Your voice comes from your values

Your values are like a moral compass that guide you between what you believe to be right or wrong. In other words, they are basically an extension of what you believe in. Let’s say your values are to be honest and compassionate. Allow your voice to lead with Honesty and Compassion and these values will most definitely be heard among the crowd. And lastly, everyones values are different so don’t be afraid to let yours shine through.

Your voice comes from authenticity

This point, in my opinion, is the most important. I’m sure you’ve heard about authenticity before but nevertheless, according to Meriam-Webster, the definition of authenticity is being “true to one’s own personality, spirit, or character is sincere and authentic with no pretensions.” I speak from experience when I say that being my authentic, true self is what made the difference between finding my voice and being a follower; someone generic. Authenticity is directly tied to being in tune with your heart and your values, so allow yourself the vulnerability and freedom to embrace the beautiful, unique person that you are. Make your voice heard. 

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Have you experienced a time when you felt like your voice was being silenced or challenged? How did you get back in tune with yourself and your voice?

Xo, Kate

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Celebrating International Women’s Day

Here's to strong women / Femme Society

Happy International Women’s Day!

Today is a special day for one particular reason. International Women’s Day has been observed for over 100 years, dating back to the early 1900’s when 15,000 women marched through the streets of New York City insisting on shorter work hours, better pay and the right to vote. This march spurred a movement nothing short of a revolution that is still very alive and well in 2017. During the Women’s March on Washington on January 21, 2017, an estimated 4.8 million people marched world wide in solidarity for women’s rights. Although International Women’s Day celebrates the strides made towards gender parity, patriarch dissolve, access to education, protection against violence and gender equality, it sparks the conversation of how to further these achievements and the work still required to rid the glass ceiling from existence entirely.

I pledge to help women and girls achieve their ambitions

Whenever people ask me what my blog is about, I tell them my blog isn’t about me; it’s about the women of the world unsure of their worth. It’s about the women who dream of being something bigger. It’s for the girls who want to create their own path rather than follow the one forced upon them. It’s for the women that want to be leaders of change for their communities. It’s for the tribe full of brave, powerful and badass female warriors that I’m so proud to be in the company of.

International Women’s Day can mean something a little different to each of us. I encourage you to visit the International Women’s Day  website and #PledgeForParity to start conversations about women’s rights and influence the future of gender equality. What will you pledge for?

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What makes you feel powerful as a woman in 2017?

To celebrate diversity and strength of women in the 21st century, I asked some amazing Femme Society readers what makes them feel proud and powerful to be a woman in today’s society. Here’s what they had to say:

 

 “Being able to write and follow my dreams, whatever they may be at the moment. Being an equal partner in my marriage and I am excited for the day I’ll be a mother.” -Taylor

“Perfectly applied red lipstick or the sound of heels on hard floors. Both also give me a confidence boost. Watch out world, I’m here!” -Margaret

“I know that there are so many women that don’t and might never get to feel this way, but I personally feel proud and powerful to be a woman in 2017 because I know that I’m free and capable of pursuing my biggest goals and dreams without limitations. And that’s a dream I have for every woman. That our only limitation in life would be ourselves.” -Nicole

“Bold lipstick, even if I’m wearing sweatpants and haven’t shaved my legs in a week.” -Mallory

“I feel feminine when I feel powerful. Being female is powerful! Sometimes I feel powerful while I’m kicking ass in a work out. Sometimes I’m wearing heels and spending time with my girls. Other times it’s while I’m curled up on the couch with my sweetie. I have the power to choose the life I want to live, that is powerful!” -Rae

“I’m proud that I can be the one who has the big career and the most education in a relationship. I’m proud that I can be the bread winner and that is both accepted and encouraged.” -Kelsey

“I always feel feminine! It’s hard to just pick one thing. I like to think of myself as a badass woman warrior – as I think we all are whether we know it or not.” -Brittany

“As a woman in the modern age it’s so easy to find pride and strength in the things we can accomplish. Our career or ability to hold a career, juggle our children, cook dinner and still get a workout in. We are so quick to become prideful in our abilities, yet when we can’t seem to get it together, we beat ourselves up. We compare our inability’s to those who “have it all together”. The reality is we can’t do it all even though we so desperately want to. So what makes me feel proud and powerful in this age? Letting go. Letting go of expectations of myself or the expectations others hold over me. Saying no to the weight of my burdens that I can’t bare on my own and ultimately allowing the Lord to be my sustenance in life. What freedom it is to know I can’t do it all and that the burdens I carry don’t have to be my own, there is a God who carries them for me and gives me strength when I fall.” -Rebecca


How are you celebrating #IWD17? What are you pledging to #BeBoldForChange? Are you participating in a Day Without a Woman?

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girl behind the blog

Hello friends! Today I’m posting about the “girl behind the blog” which is a little different than my typical long-winded inspiration posts. I was tagged by my blogging pal The Fancy Sister (who is an absolute ray of sunshine and you should show her some love!) to share 10 Facts About Me which is awesome because the internet has been pretty serious lately if you pick up what I’m putting down…

In an effort to share more about myself with you (my cyber besties!) I hope to open up the door to more conversations and make this world a little lighter and friendlier. It sure doesn’t hurt to try! Feel free to jump on the train and join the #BloggersGetSocial conversation. Tag me (@femmesociety) on Instagram with the #BloggersGetSocial hashtag so I can say hello. Now, let’s get to it!

All about the girl behind the blog:

1. I love dogs. If you know me personally, you’ll know that I’m slightly dog obsessed. If I see a dog in public I will likely squeal with excitement like a 5-year-old and depending on how friendly the owner looks, I’ll ask if I can pet their pup. Alex and I will eventually get a pup when we have a bigger place but until then, petting stranger’s dogs will have to suffice.

2. I’m an only child. And yes, I love it. 

3. I HATE the gym. There’s a .0000001% chance you will ever see me working out in a gym. The environment just isn’t for me. Zumba or yoga classes however, are totally my jam.

4. I’ve never been anywhere tropical. Aside from visiting Florida in January 2013 for a conference, I’ve never been to Mexico, Hawaii, Cuba or anywhere tropical for a vacation. I can’t be the only one, can I? Alex and I have been dreaming to go to Hawaii one day soon so if you have any Hawaii suggestions, I’m all ears!

5. I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve watched Gilmore Girls. I’ve watched the series with so many of my friends growing up and probably 15 times over since it’s been on Netflix. Okay, may not 15 times but you get it. And no, I HAVEN’T seen the revival yet because I want to finish rewatching season 7 before I’m ready. Ps. Paris Geller is my spirit animal.

6. I was a cheerleader in university. Having a life-long dance background, I thought it would be fun to join the TRU Wolfpack Cheerleaders in my first year of university. I had NEVER cheered before but I ended up loving it and definitely miss it sometimes! Here’s my roster photo as proof.

7. I love fly fishing. My family is big into fishing and camping so I learned how to fish at a young age. Every year I go on a fishing trip with my dad and step-mom and it’s always a competition between the three of us who can get the most fish.

8. I have six tattoos. Each of them mean something different to me and remind me of who I am. I love the way tattoos can tell your story and will probably get a few more in the future. 

9. I’ve been to Harvard. Being Canadian, the idea of American Ivy League schools is rather fascinating, at least to me. During a trip to Boston, the group I was with made it our mission to visit Harvard and for the record… it’s amazing. I totally had an Elle Woods meets pre-Yale Rory Gilmore moment. The buildings and history were incredible. I never wanted to leave!

10. I’m AWFUL at cooking. Ask any of my friends or old roommates what I’m not good at and they’ll definitely say cooking. In my first year of university, I almost burnt down my residence building trying to cook chicken breast for a stir fry. Luckily with the help of my crock pot and Alex as a kitchen supervisor, I’ve had less disasters and more yummy meals.

 

There you have it! Now it’s your turn – share 10 random facts about yourself and start a social conversation! Don’t forget to use the tag #BloggersGetSocial. 

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