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conquering fear

Today I wanted to talk on a more serious note about something that I think we all have experienced at some point in our lives. It comes in many shapes and forms and grows in size as we give in to it. Like many uncomfortable things in life, it can be hard to talk about, especially if we want others to perceive us as confident and unflawed. It’s the big, nasty, f-word. Fear.

I have a love/hate relationship with this word. I hate the stigma that surrounds fear because fear does not look the same to me, as it does to you. Likewise, you should know that you do not have to justify the validity of your fears. But what I love about fear is that we ALL live with it, we ALL feel it, and we ALL deal with it. You know that girl on Instagram with the seemingly perfect life? She lives with fear. You know your best friend who you think has it all together? She lives with fear. They all live with fear. The bottom line is… we all have fear.

So now that you know that you are NOT alone when it comes to living with fear, I want to help you cope with it.

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1. Name It

Alright, so let’s start by naming the beast. I’ll start:

I’m afraid of being misunderstood.

I have a fear of not being liked for who I am.

I’m fearful of being judged while I pursue my dreams.

Think of what exactly it is that you are fearful of. Is it caused by insecurities? Is it something you can control? Whatever it is, being able to put your finger on it will help identify the fear when it affects us most. When you have identified it, it’s no longer unknown and illusive. It’s out there in plain sight for us to get a little bit more comfortable with.

2. Own It

This part is really important. By owning your fears, you take away its power to control your life. In theory it sounds simple, but it requires a ton of bravery and courage which I KNOW you have no shortage of. Owning your fears says “Hey, I might be afraid of this, but I’m going to do it anyway.”

In order to fully own your fears, you need to be okay with exposing them. There’s an undeniable power that comes from exposing these raw parts of ourselves and not letting them slow us down. In other words, owning your fears is complete badassery and the world should watch out.

3. Share It

You might be thinking I’m crazy. Why would I want you to share something that makes you vulnerable? That’s just it, because it makes you vulnerable. We are drawn to vulnerability because it’s real and authentic. By sharing your fears with others, a few amazing things happen. First of all, it opens up a meaningful conversation beyond the surface. Believe it or not, people care about how you’re really doing and they will listen.

Secondly, there’s a very good chance that someone else shares the very same, or very similar fears that you have. Starting a conversation with someone who you share a common (or uncommon) fear with is a recipe for deeper connections. In a world fed by automated Instagram comments, like4like, and bots, it’s becoming harder and harder to find deep and meaningful connections.

And lastly, share your fears because in the end, we are more alike than we are different.

Conquering Fear // femmesociety.ca
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What are your greatest fears? How have you tried to own your fears? Tell me about your experiences in the comments. Have a lovely week everyone! xo
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Desk inspiration

Happy weekend everyone! I’m really excited to share this post because until now, I’ve never had my own work space. Since we moved to a new condo in August, I finally have the space for a desk, my laptop, wall space for photos and whatever else my creative heart can think of. Having a functional workspace is absolutely crucial for not only productivity, but also your mood. Trust me, I’ve spent enough years marking my academic territory on all my favourite studying spots as a student… it’s serious business. With this new office of mine, I wanted to create a space where I felt inspired, cozy, and connected with my purpose as a blogger.

What’s On My Desk?

On My Desk - Office Inspiration - www.femmesociety.ca

The Details:

Simplified Planner

My Simplified Planner is the epicentre of my organization. It helps me keep my life together, literally. I write down my schedule, to-do lists, ideas, appointments, everything. It’s an office must. (Psst… want to know more about the Simplified Planner? Then check out my previous blog post)

On My Desk - Simplified Planner - www.femmesocity.ca

Ikea Everything

It’s affordable and looks good; what else does a girl need? I chose the Hemnes desk in white, the Ranarp lamp in black, and an assortment of frames in White, Gold, and Black. The faux flowers are also Ikea.

On My Desk - Ikea - www.femmesociety.ca

On My Desk - Ikea - www.femmesociety.ca

Inspiration Pieces

Since I’m not big on colours, I used black, gold and white as the foundation and then used my brand colours in three black frames above my desk. From there I used pops of pink to make the space feel a bit more lively. I love quotes so I used one on the cork board and the other in a white Ikea frame (shown above).

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Final Touches

I used faux carnations for more pops of colour, gold Chapters notebooks and lastly Buddha… because it’s just awesome. Not pictured on my desk are my candles. Who else loves candles? I love that candles can really pull together a space and immediately make it feel cozy and inviting. I’m always looking for new candles and scents to include in my office and the rest of my home. I’m currently loving  THYMES in Frasier Fir. What are some of your favourite candle scents?!

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White Buddha: Urban Barn
Grace Not Perfection: Amazon
Good Morning Beautiful mug: Chapters
Gold Notebooks: Chapters

What’s something you always have at your desk? What’s your favourite part of your office or workspace? Let me know in the comments. Have a lovely week friends!

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my rory gilmore moment

Hello sweet friends! Femme Society has been a little quiet lately but for good reasons, I promise! I recently reached a pivotal chapter in my life. Well actually, a few significant chapters – all at once. Just last month my student life finally came to a close as I graduated with my degree – something I worked so hard for yet wasn’t really ready for it to end. Going on that thought, I’ll share a story with you.

My Rory Gilmore Moment - Graduation Day - www.femmesociety.ca

Ever since I was a teen I dreamed about being my high school class Valedictorian. I wanted everyone to know that they were special and that their hard work was so going to pay off. That was my dream. A dream that never came true because when it came to the voting round, I wasn’t chosen. Heartbroken, I moved on and tried to find the silver lining. I also dreamed about going to university, studying in a field I loved, and eventually doing something I loved. So I chose to spend the next 5 years as a student at Thompson Rivers University.

I found myself completely immersed in a world where I could excel at being my truest and most honest self: ambitious, hard working, and completely infatuated with learning. And YES, that’s the NERDIEST thing I will ever say… ever! Something that kept me motivated every single day was the thought that I was in control of every little thing that determined by success. If I wanted to make it, I had to show up, put the work in, and suck it up when things got tough. That alone, kept me going. There was no re-do, no pause, no later, no next time. It was an everyday commitment that I either wanted, or I didn’t.

My Rory Gilmore Moment - Graduation Day - www.femmesociety.ca

What I was most surprised about during this whole experience was the person I became at the finish line. Physically, mentally, and emotionally, I came full-circle. One day you’re a 17-year-old freshman without a clue in the world just trying to find your balance, and next thing you know you’re wearing a gold Valedictorian sash and walking (more like strutting) across the stage with your friends and family cheering you on. And yes, I FINALLY earned that gold Valedictorian sash, because the only competition out there is with yourself – the rest is just a distraction. In my speech I gave a quote from my homegirl Taylor Swift who says it so perfectly:

My Rory Gilmore Moment - www.femmesociety.ca

Higher education is something I hold very near and dear to my heart and has inspired me to be the best version of myself every single day. There’s no doubt in my mind that dreams like this can be achieved with an open mind and a gracious heart. Your hopes and dreams are purely an extension of your values and will always be part of your story. No matter how long it takes and how many curves and bumps you encounter, don’t stop moving. You have what it takes. Be fearless, be focussed, stay strong and you’ll get there.

So, my friends, after 5 high school years, 5 university years, 9 semesters, 3 dorm rooms, 2 laptops, 1 diploma and 1 degree…

I finally got my Rory Gilmore moment:

Spring Convocation 2016 Ceremony C June 9 for students in Adventury, Culinary and Tourism and Faculty of Education and Social Work.
Spring Convocation 2016 Ceremony C June 9 for students in Adventury, Culinary and Tourism and Faculty of Education and Social Work.

 

Thanks for reading loves! Let me know in the comments if you’ve ever experienced a time where you achieved a major life accomplishment. What was it, and how did it change you? How did it prepare you for the future?
xoxo

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